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By: hootenannie » Blog Archive » In terms of love

hootenannie » Blog Archive » In terms of love — Mon, 27 Sep 2010 15:11:23 +0000

[...] guys have come through with some excellent thoughts in the past – care to pipe up [...]

By: elizabeth

elizabeth — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 19:47:12 +0000

i just hopped over here on a link from a friends blog . . .

and i LOVE miranda’s response. i too “just knew”

my husband-to-be was a friend of my brother’s. he was in my brother’s car – he hadn’t gotten out, i hadn’t seen him – and i had the total feeling/thought – i am going to marry this guy. and then the feeling/thought of – oh. my. word. i. am. crazy!

maybe i am, maybe i was.

he knew it too. he told me so the next day. “i think i’m supposed to marry you,” he said. “i think so too,” i said.

we married 11 months later. we’ve been married now for 8 years! and it’s a long, wonderful story.

there’s all kinds of ways it happens. some of us really, truly do “just know.”

By: Muggs

Muggs — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 23:41:20 +0000

Hi Annie!
I’m sheepishly making a first appearance on your board, tail between my legs because I’ve been so out of touch, but I’m here. I wanted to say that all these responses to your question have helped me immensely. I think you and I have beena bit mislead in that we were told “God has THE ONE for you” and “I just know” because as you can read in all these posts, it varies! Some say that they worked out all their own personal stuff and then he came along and some say their partner helped them through all this stuff and then they knew la la la. Annie, we’re talking rings now…I’m about to be engaged to the man who I have always wanted. We broke up so many times because he didn’t want kids and I made some of my worst decisions as a reaction to that but all the while, I knew I wanted him. He’s not this person I thought I’d marry and thank GOD for that. (He’s much more interesting than the guy I thought I’d marry. And hotter too. heh.) But I wanted to chime in on all the people telling you it’s not a formula. It’s just loving someone and choosing to do so every day despite the odds and despite your (and his) shortcomings. I love you, Annie. I am praying for your Mom.

By: All you need is love?* « The Good, The Bad and Everything in the Middle.

All you need is love?* « The Good, The Bad and Everything in the Middle. — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 17:55:15 +0000

[...] (This was my scatter-brained response to this post.) [...]

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More randomness « The Good, The Bad and Everything in the Middle. — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:13:01 +0000

[...] week Annie over at Hootenannie wrote a post about “Knowing when you’ve got the one.” I’m still mulling over my answer. I plan to think [...]

By: Sally

Sally — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 17:54:10 +0000

I’m always late to the party… but a friend and I were discussing this one time a while ago and we concluded that everyone is crazy, you just have to find someone with the kind of crazy you can deal with. :)

Aaron and I had had a wild combination of God’s intervention, visions, decisions, etc. It was nuts. You’re inspiring me to blog about it. It was this rad thing that God did for both of us. Because I had such bad memories of my parent’s failures that I was sooo gun shy. I literally told God that it would take a revelation before I would get married. So Aaron got one. God is sneaky like that. I love that we had uncharacteristically spiritually wild beginnings. But like everyone has pointed out in the 36 comments above, regardless or whether you know or commit or whatever, it’s still marriage and it still takes work. I have a hunch that God just meets you where you are. He knows who you are and what you need. That’s why He went to such great lengths with me… because he knew I needed the reassurance. There’s no formula. Ever. Sometimes that’s frustrating, but mostly it’s awesome.

Cool post BTW. Interesting topic to think about.

By: FW

FW — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 23:37:47 +0000

… and then there is this:
http://xkcd.com/310/

By: jry

jry — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 21:35:46 +0000

The best way I can phrase it…. A lightening bolt of tranquility :)

…with Joey, “I just knew” :)

By: Miranda

Miranda — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 22:15:59 +0000

Knowing is real. It’s:

1) The heart-crushing, still satisfying emotion of “where have you been?” and “what took you so long?”
2) The feeling of being irrevocably Found.
3) The truth that somehow you already know this person – and always have.

And just knowing also means continuing to know – that after the brilliance of cloud-walking when you first meet, that you actively choose to know they are the right one for you – for always.

Miranda

By: Rebs

Rebs — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 17:53:07 +0000

I missed this one! This is great AP – I love that you asked this question! You’re my hero. :)

And, as you already know (I think), I’m one of the “just knew” ones. That doesn’t mean it didn’t completely freak me out, scare me, etc., but we just knew (and prayed about it a lot and asked other people to pray and searched our hearts, etc. etc.)

Right now I’m really wishing we could talk about this over a bottle of wine. Greta should be there, too. :) xo