On Sunday, while talking to my mom, one of my major insecurities fell out of my mouth. Without the slightest hesitation, it slipped off my tongue – and landed right there on the coffee table.
“Where did you learn that?” she asked. “Why do you feel that way about yourself?”
And for the past 36 hours, I’ve been thinking about the “reasons why.” For an all-around self-confident girl, I’ve spent a lifetime banking reinforcements for a few stupid insecurities.
A few days ago, I got word that John Medina, a dear friend, former employer, and bona fide GENE CLONER was going to be speaking in Denver last night – so of course, I went. I’ve heard John speak in Seattle many times about his research on the brain – how it works and what we know – but no matter how many times you hear him, he’s always engaging, entertaining, and brilliant. It was so good to see a familiar face.
Last night, he said that research shows that it takes 3 reinforcements for the brain to learn something, and 50 to unlearn it.
For a girl like me with a lot to unlearn, those are some really bad odds.
Once again, it’s time to combat with a Hiroshima of Truth.