Why girls aren’t asking YOU out


The way I see it,

1) If a guy is interested in me, he should have the guts – spine – balls – to do something about it.

2) If he is interested in me and does NOT have the guts – spine – balls – to do something about it, then he’s not really someone I want to be with anyway.

3) If he is not interested in me, he is not asking me out.

In any case, I leave it up to him.  It’s as simple as that.

(Andy Merrick, you know I love you – you and your many, many words on the subject.  Are you ever going to finish your series, slacker?)



  1. kimberly on March 9, 2009 at 8:26 AM


  2. AnnieBlogs on March 9, 2009 at 8:29 AM

    I like the way you think.

  3. Deborah Barnett on March 9, 2009 at 8:36 AM

    you make me laugh.

  4. Greta on March 9, 2009 at 8:39 AM


  5. dhurstlmt on March 9, 2009 at 9:00 AM

    I have many thoughts on this, but this is neither the time nor place for me to expound upon those thoughts. If ever we do meet, I’ll share.

  6. rachelrianne on March 9, 2009 at 9:14 AM

    1) amen
    2) amen, and why do we feel guilty about holding this standard??? we definitely shouldn’t and when we question it, we just get angrier and crazier and tougher on guys.
    3) yeah, and the ones who do ask you out are interested but usually weird and not worth it.

    do i sound like i want to join your ranting?

  7. jasonmichael on March 9, 2009 at 9:15 AM

    So a girl wouldn’t want to be with a guy if he didn’t have the stones to ask her out. Why can’t a guy say the same thing?

    Does that mean that us guys are asking out girls that don’t want to be with us enough to ask US out?

  8. Annie on March 9, 2009 at 11:23 AM

    Yes! It is totally the guy’s job to pursue. TOTALLY his job.

  9. cbdubs on March 9, 2009 at 11:26 AM

    Thank you for speaking truth to a billion female’s false rationalizations. Big ol’ fat WORD.

  10. Little AP on March 9, 2009 at 11:31 AM

    YES! :) After listening to one of my friends prattle on to me about how I need to pick up the art of “boy hunting,” it’s a huge relief to see that I’m not the only one who feels like it’s the guy’s job to do the “hunting.” (*ahem* Not right now, obviously…)

    Little Annie Parsons

  11. Juliette Piwiec on March 9, 2009 at 12:48 PM

    resounding YES!
    it IS true and it WILL happen.
    i’m a (newly-converted) 100% believer and I’d wish it for every single woman I know and love. :)

    also, Little AP gets mad props for using the word prattle. I love it. :)

  12. andy m on March 9, 2009 at 1:08 PM

    1. this is lol funny.
    2. i love that little annie parsons used the word “prattle”
    3. thanks for calling me out to finish. i’m writing today! :)

  13. Isaiah Kallman on March 9, 2009 at 9:35 PM

    While I agree with you as a person with guts/spine/balls, I think I kind of also roll my eyes with Handy Graham and Paul…

    When you come over to Wedgewood Manor, I’ll encourage the hell out of you.

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  16. Joey on March 10, 2009 at 2:21 PM

    Sort of.

  17. Chloe Boyle on March 10, 2009 at 8:06 PM

    Just so you know, Christina referred to this post when I asked, “Can I just call him?”

    She said, “DIDN’T you read Annie’s blog?”

    And I said, “Yes. I did.” Then I sighed. Because I knew it meant that I could not call him. And I knew in my heart of hearts, I don’t want to. I just gotta’ know that he has the balls.

  18. Anniebelle (Annie Cho) on March 10, 2009 at 10:47 PM

    Girl, I’m so with you on this, you have no idea. I wish a guy of worth would have the balls to ask a gal of worth out, but sadly… those guys seem to be the ones who sit in the corner quivering in fear – fear of rejection and all that jazz.

    Gah! and Bah!

  19. Amelia McNeilly on March 11, 2009 at 8:29 PM

    SOOO true!!!!!! I could not agree more!

  20. Joel on March 12, 2009 at 11:40 AM

    alright. Here’s the deal. As a male, I have no choice to agree with every word that Annie said. That being said, this does not preclude the female’s responsibility to pursue a guy if and when she is interested in a dude. Neither men nor women should sit to the wayside and pine after another, hoping that the other will make the first move. Long story short: IF boy likes girl, boy needs to ask girl out. IF girl likes boy, girl needs to ask boy out. The end.

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