In the spirit of tomorrow’s holiday


Here in America, we are taught that all men are created equal.

So no one should be “out of one’s league,” right?

We try to pretend that everyone deserves a fair shot – that there are no “leagues” – but when it comes to love, we employ our own silent caste system. We say that attraction is not the most important thing, but our relationships (and sometimes lack of relationships) tell a different story. We agree with John Lennon and sing, “All you need is love” – yeah, that… and a job, and a hot body, and chemistry, and a quick wit, and these days, a blood test.

I don’t know how anyone ever gets married.

Don’t get me wrong – these are not the rantings of a bitter and cynical woman. I WANT to fall in love – those of you who know me know that my heart is still soft. I hope that it happens for me someday. But I’m perplexed. I don’t understand how it ever happens – how the stars align, bringing the right people together at the right time. I don’t want to settle – but as Andy Merrick recently wrote:

“We’re acting like a contestant on Deal Or No Deal. We’re making this a game. We KNOW you’re interested in us. We have you. Maybe you’re the $500,000 case. But we’re greedy. We think there’s a $1,000,000 case out there. We don’t know for sure, but we’re hoping.”

Are we being ridiculous? Are we hoping for something that just does not exist? It’s like we’re designing our own paint-by-number mates, and unless everything fits just perfectly – the exact perfect color within the exact perfect lines – then we hold out for something (and someone) “better.”

Sheesh. I wish it was easy – easy like Sunday morning.

But never fear! Contrary to what many men assume about single women, I am not going to spend Valentine’s Day crying in my pajamas, eating peanut butter off of a spoon and cursing the boy who broke my heart in high school. Sometimes, I’ll admit, I get a little bit sad about being single, but it seems to me that I’m in good company. And this year, my holiday weekend is full of so many delightful things, it’s insane.

My favorite little wood sprite (and the closest thing I have to a soul-mate), Greta Girl, is flying in tonight.


Seriously, could I HAVE a cuter friend?

A group of us are spending Valentine’s Day at the Bluebird Café to hear Josh and Meg play – Lovebirds at the Bluebird (awwww!).


Aren’t they the best? I want them to adopt me. They kind of already have. I’m practically their love child.

We’re attending Charlie Hardin‘s CD release at the Rutledge on Monday night.


Charlie is one of my favorite musical discoveries here in Nashville – amazing songs, and an astounding voice. If you live here, you should come to this show. His EP is called “Hollywood Be Thy Name” – how could it NOT be good?

Also, I plan on exercising my love languages several times this weekend.


Because after all, all you need is love… and in my case, some beautiful friends and a glass of Syrah.



  1. Christine on February 13, 2009 at 12:17 PM

    The only answer I can think of in response to how people find each other is that out of the 6 or 7 billion people in the world, we probably have thousands of people we could get along with for years. Although it crashes the idea of soul mates. I still believe in love. I love love, but I think that there is more than one person that could love me and I could love them.

  2. Charlie ENFJ Hardin on February 13, 2009 at 1:03 PM

    Ooooooh snap. thanks for the shout out. Maybe next time you can do some of them backing vocals you love so much. See you monday.

  3. Tad on February 13, 2009 at 1:56 PM

    I love how you quoted Andy’s greedy bit. That does sum up so many people. But I think maybe you should have also quoted his remarks about feeling inadaquate. I know that often I feel it hard to stick my neck out because I can’t see anything that I could offer would stack up against what other guys can.

    Anyway, Happy Valentine’s Day Annie. I hope you and Greta have the best weekend ever! Paint the town red.

  4. Lyla on February 13, 2009 at 5:58 PM

    Dude, your Valentine’s Day as a single woman is going to blow my Valentine’s Day out of the water. I’m going to work. And then, if I *sigh* really want to… I guess we can go out to dinner or something. I have the least romantic boyfriend in the whole entire world. I don’t feel less loved for it, though. Afterall, Kyle did buy me the game Crayon Physics a few days ago just because I like it.

  5. Lyla on February 13, 2009 at 6:01 PM

    Now that I think of it, maybe video games ARE romantic to Kyle. Afterall, we do have side-by-side computers and go questing together on World of Warcraft.

  6. hootenannie on February 13, 2009 at 6:46 PM

    Thanks for calling me a wood sprite. :)

    I’m in your room right now. And after I write this comment, I’m going to go downstairs and we are going to partake of your love language.


  7. hootenannie on February 13, 2009 at 6:49 PM


    besides being in your room and about to drink wine with you, I’m apparently signed in as hootenannie on your computer.

    This, to me, symbolizes the fabulous CLOSENESS that we have in our souls– if not always in physical proximity!! But YAY for proximity!!

  8. ashley parsons on February 15, 2009 at 1:41 PM

    I am seriously blown away by the brilliant way you write. You need to write a column or something for a living – this stuff is genius!! Hope your v day ruled and yes, Greta is absolute adorableness!!!

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